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Unfriend: the word of the year, apparently

The New Oxford American Dictionary has announced its Word Of The Year for 2009: unfriend. (Well, at least they didn't choose teabagger.) But in IT Blogwatch, bloggers wonder if that's the best the wordmeisters could do.

By Richi Jennings. November 17, 2009.

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Austin Modine drives the trends:

Blame social networking for the latest cutesy-pie neologism tapped as the ... 2009 Word of the Year: unfriend. Up against a range of tech-related buzzwords that included "netbook," "sexting," and "paywall," the ... New Oxford American Dictionary ... decided to celebrate the asocial side of online acquaintance-making.
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Other finalists ... included: Hashtag ... Netbook ... Paywall ... Freemium ... Tramp Stamp ... Teabagger.more


Oxford's Rebecca Ford is joyful:

Birds are singing, the sun is shining and I am joyful first thing in the morning without caffeine. Why you ask? Because it is Word of the Year time (or WOTY as we refer to it around the office). ... This announcement is usually applauded by some and derided by others and the ongoing conversation it sparks is always a lot of fun, so I encourage you to let us know what you think.
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unfriend – verb – To remove someone as a ‘friend’ on a social networking site such as Facebook. As in, “I decided to unfriend my roommate on Facebook after we had a fight.” ... “It has both currency and potential longevity,” notes Christine Lindberg, Senior Lexicographer ... Unfriend has real lex-appeal.”more


Devin Coldewey thinks on:

While it is perhaps not used as broadly as the newly-verbed friend, the latter is already in the dictionary, so they can’t very well call it new. The best they can do is run with unfriend, which implies and extends the other. A worthy choice, I think. ... It set me thinking, though: how prescient have Word of the Year choices been? Have they infallibly documented the rise of tech in mainstream language and culture? —or are they a dusty collection of buzzwords, a history of folly and haste?
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Unfriend is, I think, one for the ages. But the others are groaners: intexticated? Funemployed? Sexting maybe, but we can’t nominate every clever portmanteau. If that were the case, half the words in the dictionary would be creations of my own. ... These word clusters provide an interesting cross-section of the culture around a certain word ... and its emergent phenomena — Twitterati is a good example of this, and a good word to keep around. The others I consign to the pit..more


Jack Schofield gets grumpy:

As a Twitter user, I can't say I'm sorry to see the accolade (for what it's worth) go to Facebook. ... Either way, unfriend is better than last year's hypermiling, and at least they didn't pick staycation.more


But Richard MacManus thinks it's an odd choice:

I think that's an odd choice for word of the year, as all the trends indicate there has been more social networking activity this past year - not less, as 'unfriend' implies. Facebook and Twitter have both rocketed in popularity in 2009. I'd suggest that more people have left MySpace and migrated to Facebook, than unfriended people on Facebook.
 
I also think that 'unfriend' is an ugly word, so for that reason it shouldn't be Word of the Year. What's more, I don't think my Mum or Dad would be familiar with the term 'unfriend.'more


Meanwhile, Isis Madrid tastes the flavor:

In honor of the word’s anointing, we’re presenting you with a list of the top five Facebook friends that you’ve always wanted to unfriend. Now you can do so while being grammatically correct. Thanks, Oxford!
  1. Farmville Guy/Girl: You know the one. They’re all up in your newsfeed taking in lost animals and asking for help growing their virtual carrots and potatoes. No I do NOT want to fertilize your crops...
  2. Emo Kid: Listen, this is a whole new, less depressing social networking site — not MySpace. Please stop crying in your Facebook picture, it’s super awkward for the rest of us...
  3. The Tweet-linker: Hey, Twitter’s cool…when it’s on Twitter. Please keep re-tweets off the Facebook arena, it is not the time or place. Conversely, if you’re going to be updating your status every five minutes, maybe you should pack it up and move to Twitter already...
  4. The Guy/Girl with TMI: Nobody wants to read your open letter to a scorned lover. Keep your infidelities off the internet, thanks...
  5. The Spoiler-er: Please don’t post how the Mad Men season finale ended, who won the game or that Ed Norton and Tyler Durden are the same person. I mean…what?more


So what's your take?
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Richi Jennings, your humble blogwatcher   Richi Jennings is an independent analyst/consultant, specializing in blogging, email, and security. A cross-functional IT geek since 1985, he is also an analyst at Ferris Research. You can follow him as @richi on Twitter, or richij on FriendFeed, pretend to be richij's friend on Facebook, or just use good old email: itblogwatch@richij.com.

 
 
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Unfriend - Orwell

" Unfriend " would work just fine in Orwellian newspeak, double plus good.

Shame on Isis Madrid!

Shame on Isis Madrid, for picking on Emo Kids!

What a meanie.

"I think that's an odd

"I think that's an odd choice for word of the year, as all the trends indicate there has been more social networking activity this past year - not less, as 'unfriend' implies."

I don't see what his point is. Having a high prominence of the word "unfriend" doesn't mean there is less social networking, it means that a big part of social networking--cutting off ties--is becoming more common-usage.

I also would love to know where all these people who use "defriend" come from. "Unfriend" is literally a household word in my family right now, ever since my uncle unfriended most of his family and a bunch of the rest decided to unfriend him, too. "Who did he unfriend today?" Says Mom.

word "unfriend"

Kudos to the NAOD! they made a great choice in choosing "unfriend" as the Word Of The Year. I sincerely believe it will have lasting value, power and as time, events, etc. ensure - a greater depth and meaning. Already, for me it does. To wit: The total, irrevocable ending of a friendship, because you were betrayed by a friend and/or the friend not measuring up to your criteria, standards, etc. of what's a true friend.

Going further, I truly see the word "unfriend" as a philosophy - a philosophy in life. Meaning, being ever ready to give up the illusion you have of your friend. Henceforth, (the purists) even abandoning the use of the word "friend." The purists are secure, content, stress-free, etc., knowing that now, and never again can they ever be betrayed by a friend (this is the elimination of Brutus).

For the purists the most anyone can ever become to them, is: "an acquaintance," "someone I know," "someone in my circle," etc. Therein, for the purists, the word "friend" becomes obsolete, passe, etc. - so naively 20th century. The purists are the sons and daughters-children of the Millennium, and the word for us is "Unfriend!" We're secure and confident in knowing that living our "Unfriend" philosophy means never having to say, "I knew I never should have trusted that bastard/bitch in the first place!"

"Sic transit glorious friendus mundi."

Clyde

This is silly

There is a perfectly good word that means the same thing: ESTRANGE. It means "to remove from customary environment or association; to arouse mutual enmity or indifference where there had been love, affection, or friendliness."
People should learn to use perfectly good English words and stop making up words.
To make friends: befriend (verb).
Antonyms: Shun, spurn, reject, eschew, avoid, estrange, alienate, distance.
The best antonym for "befriend" is "estrange."

Etymologically, your point is sound

Etymologically, your point is sound.

However, language doesn't work like that. Because estrange isn't in common usage (at least, not as a verb), all bets are off.

Anyway, what's this "making up" phrase that you seem to have invented? ;-)

You got me there.

However, estrange IS a verb. It means exactly what it means. It is neither obsolete nor archaic. Just because a word isn't well known does not mean that people should fabricate words when they don't know the correct words to imply their intended meaning. People should take time to learn words and improve their vocabulary instead of inventing words simply because they are too lazy to look them up.

I don't even say unfriend.

I don't even say unfriend. Everyone I know says defriend. I think they got this wrong.

agree

Me neither. I've never heard the word 'unfriend' before today. Everyone I know says 'defriend'.

It's a Facebook thing.

It's a Facebook thing. Neither is "correct", as "to friend" hasn't been a verb since the 17th century.

But what a dictionary defines as new and correct depends on documented common usage. OUP found more citations for "unfriend" than "defriend". From my own experience, I'm not surprised.